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1. become our own sociological experiments Our whole overly medieval academic educational tradition is that you acquire knowledge through collecting stuff from text books and knowing it especially for tests We will attempt to contest the authority of that tradition and celebrate first hand investigation thinking and creating rather than collecting and memorizing All knowledge is experience everything else is just information Albert Einstein 3 Question Authority Question Reality Question the Questioner Question Questioning There are those who make a case that the conflict competition and exploitation that erode our planet will not change until we as humans move into more collaborative and cooperative modes Such a change in ecology starts with the most fundamental aspect of our relationships our sexuality We cannot evolve further until men and women treat each other differently Respect for sexual preference the protection of children from inappropriate and abusive behavior the reduction of sexual shame and the celebration of sexual joy will emerge naturally with a shift to nonpatriarchal noncompetetitieve and nonexploitive values about sex Patrick Carnes Out of the Shadows Understanding Sexual Addiction pg xvi Major Study Units 9 The theory of repression and the relationship of sexuality and society Sex education itself as a medium reinforcing ignorance and suppression Male Sexual Body Sexual M2. with all kinds of ways of beating them You may think you have conquered the love game because you are bored with your relationship and feel that there is nothing left to explore This merely means that you have beaten that level and its time to move onto the next This doesn t necessarily mean that each new level represents a new relationship but actually levels vary greatly for each individual and can deal with the same significant other for a million levels or last for only one This concept or idea is so far what I believe I ve best learned from this course Jim former student All knowledge is experience everything else is just information Albert Einstein 14
3. Buddha Dated Thich Nhat Hanh True Love on Blackboard BLACKBOARD MATERIALS John Gottman The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work selections D H Lawrence A Propos of Lady Chatterly s Lover Denis de Rougement Love Snell and Gail Putney Love or Marriage Justin Sterling What Really Works With Men selections As much as we may want and need healthy intimate relationships many of us have never learned the skills necessary to develop them Most of us received more training in how to drive a car than in how to select a partner and build a healthy relationship Terry Gorski Getting Love Right The more I learn about love the less I know Sarah Mallon student All knowledge is experience everything else is just information Albert Einstein 10 Question Authority Question Reality Question the Questioner Question Questioning Grant that I may seek to love rather than be loved To understand rather than be understood To comfort rather than be comforted St Francis of Assisi SPIRITUALITY SEX RELATIONSHIP AND SOCIETY WEEK 14 Dec 9 Required Charlotte Davis Kasl If The Buddha Dated Thich Nhat Hanh True Love on Blackboard Observations on Marriage Love a temporary insanity curable by marriage Ambrose Bierce author and editor 1842 1914 In 25 years of marriage I m proud to say the word divorce has never come up once Murder
4. We will inquire into the barriers to sexual communication and also promote cross gender understanding and appreciation We will explore the distinction between conditioned habitual sexuality and conscious sexuality We will examine the achievement of intimacy the labor of romance and relationship and the spiritual aspects of eroticism Sociologically we will address how conventional sex education reinforces sexual ignorance and how even in this most private and intimate of spheres the fingers of society are relentlessly present Is it possible to reduce or eliminate the socially acquired sexual suspicion and mistrust between men and women in contemporary society Can contemporary western males connect with their inner female Can females connect with their inner male For our culture and for our history a woman is an object of desires not a subject with desires What is the relation between sexuality and power over others What is sacred sexuality and what is the relation between sexuality as pleasure sexuality as power and sexuality as spiritual practice Education is a journey not a destination hence students will be highly encouraged to integrate their formal readings with their own personal life experiences and to practice doing sociology rather than merely learning about it We will also be doing various experiments in de socialization wherein we will use ourselves as a laboratory and we will to some degree
5. Yes but divorce no Interview with a married couple You know what getting married is It s agreeing to taking this person who right now is at the top of his form full of hopes and ideas feeling good looking good wildly interested in you because you re the same way and sticking by him while he slowly disintegrates And he does the same for you You re his responsibility now and he s yours If no one else will take care of him you will If everyone else rejects you he won t What do you think love is Going to bed all the time Jane Smiley novelist b 1949 FINAL TAKE HOME ESSAY DUE on Scheduled Final More information TBA COURSE REQUIREMENTS Exam Exercises_ For turned in class paper Do NOT put your name on the front of your essay as usual but rather on the back of the last page 2 copies are required paper copy submitted in class plus electronic copy submitted to Blackboard s Assignment Turn it in com You can put your name on front for the electronic copy Without these two copies no credit will be given Details and full explanations of all exams quizzes and presentations will be provided l Exam 1 25 of total grade a Take Home Essay Integrate the materials of weeks 1 through 4 around a central theme Mottier Semans Anand Kinsey the films other readings and discussions 2 to 4 typed pages b Possible in class essay and possible multiple choice exam 2A Exam 2 25 of total grade All
6. able to 1 Describe the key methodological paradigms of the social and psychological sciences studying human sexuality 2 Design conduct and evaluate research employing a variety of different methodologies 3 Evaluate competing knowledge claims regarding the foundations and interpretations of human sexuality The Chapman University Academic Integrity Policy Chapman University s students with Disabilities Policy and Equity and Diversity policy has been modified The following is the revised text Chapman University s Academic Integrity Policy Chapman University is a community of scholars which emphasizes the mutual responsibility of all members to seek knowledge honestly and in good faith Students are responsible for doing their own work and academic dishonesty of any kind will not be tolerated anywhere in the university Chapman University s Students with Disabilities Policy In compliance with ADA guidelines students who have any condition either permanent or temporary that might affect their ability to perform in this class are encouraged to inform the instructor at the beginning of the term The University through the Disability Services Office will work with the appropriate faculty member who is asked to provide the accommodations for a student in determining what accommodations are suitable based on the documentation and the individual student needs The granting of any accommodation will not be retroactive and ca
7. both on Blackboard WEEK 3 Sept 16 Required Wink s The New Good Vibrations Guide to Sex Ch 11 through 20 Anand Margot The Art of Sexual Ecstasy Pages 1 63 On blackboard and the corresponding Team Presentations SEXUAL FANTASIES THE INDIVIDUAL AND SOCIETY can we dismiss our fantasies as just harmless private entertainment assuming that a bit of kink never hurt anyone or do our fantasies actually govern our lives in other respects Brett Kahr Who s Been Sleeping in Your Head p 270 So long as women were cut off from masturbation they were cut off from their inner erotic lives Nancy Friday Women on Top p 29 WEEK 4 Sept 23 Required Wink s The New Good Vibrations Guide to Sex as above Friday s My Secret Garden We all collectively read Introduction Ch 1 Tell me what you are thinking about Ch 2 Why fantasize when you have me Then you individually self select 3 rooms from Ch 3 House of fantasy and finally We all collectively read Ch 6 Fantasy Accepted Women on Top We all read Part One Report from the Erotic Interior Part Two Separating Sex and Love In Praise of Masturbation You self select three sections on fantasy types in Part Three The Fantasies Men in Love We all read Ch s 1 The Masculine Conflict Ch 2 Masturbation and Ch 3 Sharing and Living out Fantasies and then you self select 3 chapters from the rest Team P
8. 69 451 and Carnes Out of the Shadows Understanding Sexual Addiction entire Ann Rice The Claiming of Sleeping Beauty entire FYI With regards to Rice s Fantasy novel a former student recommended the works of Christie Sims http www amazon com Christie Sims e BOOCMBW1PC ref pd_sim_kstore_bl_2 BLACKBOARD READINGS Susan Sontag The Pornographic Imagination Camille Paglia Sexual Personae selections Aanstoos Phenomenology of Sexuality Michel Foucault The History of Sexuality selections The absence of a relationship and the desire for heightened excitement are the twin pillars of the sexual addiction Carnes Out of the Shadows pg 43 Intimacy is not intercourse former student WEEK 8 Oct 21 Required Kahr s Who s Been Seeping In Your Head The Secret World of Sexual Fantasies xi 108 269 451 and Carnes Out of the Shadows Understanding Sexual Addiction entire Ann Rice The Claiming of Sleeping Beauty entire BLACKBOARD READINGS Susan Sontag The Pornographic Imagination Camille Paglia Sexual Personae selections Aanstoos Phenomenology of Sexuality Michel Foucault The History of Sexuality selections All knowledge is experience everything else is just information Albert Einstein 8 Question Authority Question Reality Question the Questioner Question Questioning WEEK 9 Oct 28 Required Kahr s Who s Been Seeping In Your Head The Secret Wor
9. Question Authority Question Reality Question the Questioner Question Questioning Honors 416 Sex Self and Society Dr Bernard McGrane Fall 2014 Office Roosevelt 216 Office Hours M W 2 4pm McGrane Chapman edu Honors 416 Sex Self and Society We are all motivated by an intense curiosity about sex but thwarted by our inability to discuss it Winks and Semans 1997 36 What you have between your legs is sex male or female Gender masculine or feminine is between your ears it is the whole of your life your emotional and mental makeup the way you present yourself in society the way you interact with others your imagination the theater of your being Caitriona Reed Coming Out Whole Sex is just as taboo as it was 100 years ago Spenser Boring Student Everything in the world is about sex except sex Sex is about power Oscar Wilde Required Texts All are inexpensive paperbacks Many used copies on internet as PDF s at http bookos org on Lib Reserve and our Blackboard 1 Veronique Mottier Sexuality A Very Short Introduction 2 Winks Cathy and Anne Semans The New Good Vibrations Guide to Sex 3rd Ed Not on Blackboard 2a John and Julie Gottman Gott Sex on Blackboard 3 Arnaud Margot The Art of Sexual Ecstasy short selections on Blackboard 4 Friday Nancy My Secret Garden An Anthology of Women s Sexual Fantasies selections Not on Bb Women on Top selectio
10. aking could lead Like many others I felt the frustration of loving at 10 percent of my potential I recognized that the pleasure of routine or All knowledge is experience everything else is just information Albert Einstein 13 Question Authority Question Reality Question the Questioner Question Questioning recreational sex was not the ultimate pleasure indeed it was just a beginning How would it be I wondered if during lovemaking one could consistently re create the conditions that led to bliss I decided to search for ways to cultivate ecstatic states in conjunction with the sexual experience For the next 15 years I explored the great traditions of ecstatic sexuality The following is a quote from a 06 student essay If it s still unclear on what I m saying then Ill try to use an analogy using a video game I know what you re saying A video game How the hell are these two things even close Just hear me out Video games are the most fun the first time you play them Each level is new with something unknown around every corner The further you get the more difficult it gets yet it s easier to maintain a more difficult stage because you have since become accustomed to the character and the controls Finally you beat it and now the game has little or no interest to you because you ve already explored everything there is to explore Getting love right is a never ending video game Endless amounts of levels
11. ent Love Snell and Gail Putney All knowledge is experience everything else is just information Albert Einstein 9 Question Authority Question Reality Question the Questioner Question Questioning Love or Marriage Justin Sterling What Really Works With Men selections I am in love with my best guy friend and he has no idea Former student Falling in love is easy staying in love is a whole other story Noah Mayer student WEEK 12 Nov 18 Required Inge Bell Love M Scott Peck The Road Less Traveled selections Charlotte Davis Kasl If The Buddha Dated Thich Nhat Hanh True Love on Blackboard BLACKBOARD MATERIALS John Gottman The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work selections D H Lawrence A Propos of Lady Chatterly s Lover Denis de Rougement Love Snell and Gail Putney Love or Marriage Justin Sterling What Really Works With Men selections Tt seems to me that working for love is an expression of love Joe Wheeler student T need to learn to be alone because if I can t be alone then why would anyone want to be close with me Much of learning how to be in a successful love relationship has to do with having a successful relationship with yourself Matthew Skufza student kikik THANKSGIVING BREAK kik WEEK 13 Dec 2 Required M Scott Peck The Road Less Traveled selections Charlotte Davis Kasl If The
12. f Loving Dennis de Rougemont Love in the Western World Nathaniel Brandon The Psychology of Romantic Love Morton Hunt The Natural History of Love All knowledge is experience everything else is just information Albert Einstein 2 Question Authority Question Reality Question the Questioner Question Questioning Course Statement gt Throughout history men have been the subject of sex while women have been the object of sex S Mech student Alfred Kinsey cracked open the field of sexological research and Nancy Friday initiated a public discourse around sexual fantasy in particular Most of us regard ourselves as the supreme architects of our sexual lives choosing our partners our fantasies and our pornography But the data I have collected suggest that we may have less conscious control over our fantasies and sexual predilections than we would wish to believe Brett Kahr Who s Been Sleeping In Your Head p 395 If you believe in nothing else believe that sexual repression never sleeps especially the sexual repression of women Nancy Friday Women on Top p 17 This course explores the social construction of sexual ignorance and the social accomplishment of sexual repression It addresses our sexual socialization Simultaneously we will attempt to promote greater realism greater skillfulness and greater literacy regarding our lives as sexual beings as gendered beings and as romantic beings
13. ind Female Sexual Body Sexual Mind Interviews on American s sexual fantasy life Sexuality and Spirituality Sexualities Fear Ignorance and Repression Sex is not natural Heterosexuality is not innate Society is inside of sex Communication across the Sex Divide 10 Sociological Conceptions of Gender 11 The R word Relationship Love and Marriage All knowledge is experience everything else is just information Albert Einstein Question Authority Question Reality Question the Questioner Question Questioning Generic Syllabus Page Our Program Learning Outcomes are the following 1 Students will learn to explain and discuss social history theory and terminology regarding human sexuality 2 Students will learn to explain and discuss how sociological and psychological research and analysis regarding human sexuality are carried out 3 Students will learn to explain and discuss the broad range of social institutions and process regarding human sexuality This will be viewed in a micro sociological manner as well as in the context of world societies that is a macro sociological manner Students will become aware of global issues and problems regarding human sexuality 4 Students will demonstrate an ability to write effectively using appropriate sociological psychological and philosophical style and terminology Our Course learning outcomes are the following Students who complete this course should be
14. knowledge is experience everything else is just information Albert Einstein 11 Question Authority Question Reality Question the Questioner Question Questioning a Take Home Essay Integrate the materials of weeks 4 through 8 around core theme Mostly Friday and Kahr also Carnes Rice Sontag the films and discussions 2 to 4 typed pages b Possible in class essay and possible multiple choice exam 3 Team Projects Exploriments and Presentations 25 of total grade 4 Exam 3 25 of total grade Final Take Home Exam Integrate the materials of the last few weeks around a central theme Bell Peck Gottman Putney Kasl Thich Nhat Hahn the films etc 3 to 5 typed pages 5 To work on and improve your reading and writing skills I recommend you use Writing Down the Bones by Natalie Goldberg and How to Read a Book by Mortimer Adler 6 Categories of evaluating take home integration essays a power of integrating theme continuity and comprehensiveness b use of materials range and depth of reference c creativity boldness and originality d writing style communication skillfulness GRADE BREAKDOWN Exam 1 25 Exam 2 25 Team Projects Experiments 25 Final 25 Course Integrity and Discipline 1 Anyone who disrupts the integrity of the class environment for example through chattering or consistently coming late will be dropped from the course 2 Anyone who engages in plagiarism presenting s
15. ld of Sexual Fantasies xi 108 269 451 and Carnes Out of the Shadows Understanding Sexual Addiction Ann Rice The Claiming of Sleeping Beauty WEEK 10 Nov 4 Required Kahr s Who s Been Seeping In Your Head The Secret World of Sexual Fantasies xi 108 269 451 and Carnes Out of the Shadows Understanding Sexual Addiction Ann Rice The Claiming of Sleeping Beauty WEEK 11 Nov 11 Exam 2 Nov 11 ROMANCE LOVE RELATIONSHIP MARRIAGE AND SOCIETY I did not yet love and I wanted to love so I sought what I might love in love with loving St Augustine Confessions The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves and not to twist them to fit our own image Otherwise we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them Thomas Merton Friendship is the only real model for true romantic love Inge Bell This Book Is Not Required American Marriages are unstable because Americans marry for love Putney The Adjusted American Required Inge Bell This Book is Not Required Love chapter M Scott Peck The Road Less Traveled selections Charlotte Davis Kas If The Buddha Dated Thich Nhat Hanh True Love on Blackboard Highly recommended Harville Hendricks Getting the Love You Want BLACKBOARD MATERIALS John Gottman The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work selections D H Lawrence A Propos of Lady Chatterly s Lover Denis de Rougem
16. logy of Sexuality D H Lawrence A Propos of Lady Chatterley s Lover Denis de Rougement Love Snell and Gail Putney Love or Marriage Justin Sterling What Really Works With Men selections Michel Foucault The History of Sexuality selections Sontag Susan The Pornographic Imagination Camille Paglia Sexual Personae Art and Decadence from Nefertiti to Emily Dickinson selections Possible films we may use Kinsey Don Jon Bliss Hollywood film In the Realm of the Senses Japanese film What Kids Want to Know About Sex and Growing Up The Education of Shelby Knox Sex Lies and Education Women Sex Passion and Power The Technology of Orgasm Still Doing It The Intimate Lives of Women over 65 Adult Entertainment A Psychosocial Study of An American Obsession The Vagina Monologues The Clitoris The Secrets of a Sexual Surrogate Nina Hartley s Guides Sam Keen on Sex and the Sacred Secrets of Sacred Sex Killing Us Softly Tough Guise Dreamworlds Wrestling With Manhood The Pinks and the Blues The Perfect Vagina Porndemic Sexy Baby Understanding Hookup Culture Recommended Books Ryan Chistopher and Cacilda Jetha Sex at Dawn How We Mate Why We Stray and What It Means for Modern Relationships Easton and Liszt The Ethical Slut A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities Winks and Semans The Woman s Guide to Sex on the Web Diamond Jared Why is Sex Fun Eric Fromm The Art o
17. merica sex is an obsession In other parts of the world it is a fact Marlene Dietrich Hollywood Actress WEEK 1 Sept 2 Required First Read over this entire syllabus carefully Bell This Book is Not Required An Emotional Survival Manual for Students Chapters Grades Support Your Local Teacher An Academic Question Questions of Academic Integrity Blackboard Mottier Sexuality A Very Short Introduction entre Optional Alexander Gender and Sexuality chapters on Blackboard Wink s The New Good Vibrations Guide to Sex Foreword chs 1 5 Gottman s Gott Sex Myths about Sex pgs 73 91 For all of McGrane readings exploriments given in The Un TV and the 10 MPH Car the instructions are to first do the exploriment then afterwards do the readings on it in the book Blackboard Sexuality is not a leisure or part time activity It is a way of being Alexander Lowen Love and Orgasm WEEK 2 Sept 9 Required Wink s The New Good Vibrations Guide to Sex Ch 6 through 10 and the corresponding Team Presentations All knowledge is experience everything else is just information Albert Einstein 6 Question Authority Question Reality Question the Questioner Question Questioning Kinsey chapter from Robertson s The Modernization of Sex on Blackboard and the corresponding Team Presentations Gould s X A Fabulous Child s Story Waskul et al Women and Their Clitoris
18. nnot jeopardize the academic standards or integrity of the course Equity and Diversity Chapman University is committed to ensuring equality and valuing diversity Students and professors are reminded to show respect at all times as outlines in Chapman s Harassment and Discrimination Policy http tinyurl com CUHarassment Discrimination Any violations of this policy should be discussed with the professor the Dean of Students and or otherwise reported in accordance with this policy All knowledge is experience everything else is just information Albert Einstein 5 Question Authority Question Reality Question the Questioner Question Questioning An Optimistic Calendar and Detailed Road Map You are absolutely responsible for EVERYTHING that occurs in class WHETHER YOU ARE PRESENT OR NOT please connect with 2 classmates to contact for help if you miss a class Many assignments only given orally in class This syllabus is a guide for an educational journey not a legal document Please relate to it accordingly Unless you are on some form of medical alert ALL ELECTRONIC DEVICES cell phones laptops etc are to be TURNED OFF during class Class Integrity This course will breakdown and become completely impossible without each student s commitment to fully honor and respect the confidentiality of what gets shared here SEX EDUCATION AND MIS EDUCATION SEXUALITY GENDER AND SOCIETY EROTIC ANATOMY AND PHYSIOLOGY In A
19. ns Not on Bb Men in Love selections Not on Bb 5 Kahr Brett Who s Been Seeping In Your Head The Secret World of Sexual Fantasies selections Not on Bb 6 Carnes Patrick Out of the Shadows Understanding Sexual Addiction Not on Bb 7 Ann Rice The Claiming of Sleeping Beauty Not on Bb 8 Harville Hendricks Getting the Love You Want highly recommended 9 Charlotte Davis Kasl If The Buddha Dated Not on Bb 10 Thich Nhat Hanh True Love full text on blackboard 11 Planned Parenthood Website BetterThanSexED org highly recommended Required Materials on Blackboard and Library Reserve All Sample Quality Papers from your class that I notify you about Inge Bell This Book is Not Required An Emotional Survival Manual for Students Chapters Grades Support Your Local Teacher An Academic Question Questions of Academic Integrity All knowledge is experience everything else is just information Albert Einstein Question Authority Question Reality Question the Questioner Question Questioning Louis Gould X A Fabulous Child s Story Bernard McGrane The Un TV and the 10 MPH Car selections Kinsey chapter from Paul Robinson s The Modernization of Sex Dennis Waskul et al Women and Their Clitoris M Scott Peck The Road Less Traveled ch Love John Gottman The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work selections Christopher Aanstoos Phenomeno
20. omeone else s written work as your own will be dropped failed from the course A letter will go in your university file and it is possible you will be expelled from the university All knowledge is experience everything else is just information Albert Einstein 12 Question Authority Question Reality Question the Questioner Question Questioning Random Addenda I Sexual Pleasure versus Bliss The following is a quote from Margot Anand in The Art of Sexual Ecstasy p 2 3 My first peak sexual experience took place in Paris France my hometown when I was 18 and set me off on a course of study and teaching that I have pursued ever since At the time I was very much in love with a young American artist named Robert He certainly fit the all American male image Tall strong good looking and more than capable of sweeping me off my feet Sex between us was raw primal and wild fulfilling my adolescent dreams of how a real man should behave with his woman I was studying yoga at the time however and was beginning to experience some subtle dimensions of feeling quiet meditative serene moods and I began to wonder what it would be like to integrate these states into my sex life I spoke about my feelings one evening during our lovemaking We were having sex in the usual energetic way when I said Robert please slow down let s try something new We stopped and simply relaxed staying bonded together
21. resentations Week 5 Sept 30 Exam 1 Sept 30 Required Friday s My Secret Garden continue selections Women on Top continue selections Men in Love continue selections Team Presentations Being able to give ourselves an orgasm is sexual independence though it s nice to have a partner it s important to know that for sex to take place it isn t necessary Giving ourselves an orgasm is the sexual equivalent of being able to pay our own rent Nancy Friday Women On Top pg 55 In all of human life no one has more power over another All knowledge is experience everything else is just information Albert Einstein 7 Question Authority Question Reality Question the Questioner Question Questioning person than a mother over a child Mother let your little girl masturbate Nancy Friday Women On Top pg 59 I can conclude that approximately 90 of masturbatory fantasies contain elements of obviously traumatic incidents which became eroticized that trauma functions as a key ingredient in the genesis of adult sexual fantasies Kahr Who s Been Sleeping in Your Head pg 393 Incest is boot camp for prostitution Andrea Dworkin Week 6 Oct 7 Required Friday s My Secret Garden continue selections Women on Top continue selections Men in Love continue selections Team Presentations Week 7 Oct 14 Required Kahr s Who s Been Seeping In Your Head The Secret World of Sexual Fantasies xi 108 2
22. with Robert still inside me I was lying on top I felt excited because I had initiated something new removing his responsibility for making something happen There was a subtle switch of roles and I felt him shift into a more feminine receptive attitude We remained like that for many minutes relaxed while at the same time feeling the excitement of sexual arousal in our bodies I soon felt a kind of warm glowing energy beginning to diffuse itself through my whole pelvic area We wanted to maintain sexual arousal so when the excitement began to fade we returned to our usual style of active lovemaking Then just before the peak of orgasmic release we stopped relaxed and became still once more We repeated this pattern several times and then something totally unexpected happened Suddenly we both seemed to be floating in an unbounded space filled with warmth and light The boundaries between our bodies dissolved and along with them the distinctions between man and woman We were one The experience became timeless and we seemed to remain like this forever There was no need to have an orgasm There was no need even to make love There was nothing to do nothing to achieve We were in ecstasy After that extraordinary experience I tried many times to recapture the ecstasy in our lovemaking but without success Robert quickly forgot about it but I began to feel that ordinary genital orgasm was not the only desirable state to which lovem
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