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1. INSTITUTE OF NEURO SEMANTICS Advancing the Field ef the Cegnitive Sciences Mastering Blocking amp Stuttering The Structure of Blocking amp Stuttering Looking at Blocking amp Stuttering Through the Eyes of Neuro Semantics Presentation National Stuttering Association June 27 2003 Nashville Tennessee Bobby G Bodenhamer D Min gt Presenter INS WWW NEUROSEMANTICS COM NLP of Gastonia First Institute of Neuro Semantics 1516 Cecelia Dr Gastonia NC 28054 Phone 704 864 3585 Fax 704 864 1545 Email bob neurosemantics com The Structure of Blocking amp Stuttering Looking at Blocking amp Stuttering Through the Eyes of Neuro Semantics Presentation Handout National Stuttering Association June 27 2003 Nashville Tennessee Bobby G Bodenhamer D Min Presenter John say you have times when you stutter Yes there are times when I do but most of the time I am OK I speak fluently at home and around my friends So John when do you tend to block the worse T am worse at work T understand So you block worse at work What is there about being at work that causes you to block Well I am not quite sure I just know when I am at work I am uncomfortable So you are uncomfortable at work What is there about being at work that makes you uncomfortable I guess it is my boss primarily He makes me uncomfortable I suppose2. s and he applied those resources to his old childhood memories of fearing his father The fears disappeared and with them so did the blocking and stuttering The most powerful learning for John was that he was bringing blocking and stuttering on himself He determined to fix that problem which he did In our work in Neuro Semantics we have discovered that the primary drivers of blocking and stuttering are cognitive thinking in nature and not physical or certainly not genetic Now we are not saying that genetics and psycho motor problems early on may have played a role in the development of a stutter but they are not the primary cause of its continuation It is the deeply unconscious thinking patterns that developed around the stuttering that have locked the behavior in Successful treatment will involve addressing these thought patterns How do people who block and stutter lock in the childhood disfluency into an ongoing adult problem Our work has indicated that it is the meanings surrounding blocking and stuttering that in fact lock it in and make it so difficult but not impossible to change Indeed I have known several people who blocked and stuttered who through proper therapy gain total fluency by removing the unconscious meanings they had built around blocking and stuttering Some questions for your consideration 1 How is it that many PWS can speak fluently in some contexts and not speak fluently in other contexts 2 When
3. Self 3 How you understand your sense of Power and Resourcefulness 4 Your relationship with Time 5 Your relationship with Others 6 Your view of the World you live in i Your understanding of your higher Purpose and Intentions Ask yourself 1 3 What does blocking and stuttering mean to me Meaning Matrix What do these meanings say about me as a person Self Matrix What do these meanings say about my sense of power and resourcefulness in relationship to how I speak Power and Resource Matrix What do these meanings say about how I view my relationship with time in the context of how I speak Time Matrix What do these meanings say about my relationship with others in regards to how I speak Others Matrix What do these meanings say about how I view the world I live in Do I view the world as a safe or unsafe place Do I view it as a friendly or unfriendly place World Matrix Because I am a person who blocks and stutters what is my purpose intent outcome in regards to how I speak Purpose and Intentional Matrix Figure 1 The Matrix Circle Purpose For sure you never leave home without your Matrix filled with all these and many more frames of mind Your Matrix gives you your model of the world through which you navigate through life If you view yourself as a person of worth with innate powers to navigate the world in which you live you will live your life one way If however you view yours
4. a person speaks consistently fluent in one context but not others what does this imply about the causation and continuation of blocking and stuttering 3 How can the primary causation and continuation be physical We do believe that at its onset blocking amp stuttering could have physical components 4 How can the primary causation and continuation be genetic in nature We do believe that genetic predisposition could have contributed to the beginning problem but not its continuation See Bruce Lipton s The Biology of Belief 5 If you were not fearful of looking like a fool or being vulnerable because of your blocking and stuttering how would that affect your blocking and stuttering Other and Power Matrices 6 If you had a healthy view of yourself as an innate person of worth in spite of how you speak how would that affect your blocking and stuttering Self Matrix 7 If you felt in control of your speech all the time as you do when you are fluent how would that affect your blocking and stuttering Power Matrix 8 If you were able to rid yourself of the belief I have always blocked and stuttered in certain context which means that I always will what would happen to your blocking and stuttering Time Matrix 9 If you were not fearful of the judgments of other people about how you speak what would happen to your blocking and stuttering Other Matrix 10 If you viewed the world you live in as a warm inviting friend
5. if I were honest about it I would say that I am really afraid of him Oh so you are fearful of your boss man What is there about him that causes you to choose to be fearful of him Yes I am fearful of him In fact when I am around anyone who is in authority over me I get nervous and fearful So it is really about being fearful of authority figures in general and not just your boss man Yes that is right When you think of your boss and being fearful of him where in your body do you feel that fear I feel it in my upper body especially in my chest throat and in my jaws Very good Now when you block where do you feel the block In the same place It is the same feeling So when you are not at work and are speaking fluently how do your chest throat and jaw feel Oh I feel fine then I am relaxed I don t even think about how I am speaking I just feel relaxed and focus on what I am talking about and enjoying the conversation with the other person So if you didn t fear people in authority what would happen to your blocking and stuttering Well it would go away wouldn t it John was one of the first persons who blocked and stuttered that I worked with therapeutically We found that the origin of his fear of authority came from his relationship with his father when John was just a lad We accessed some higher adult resources of John
6. to the thought of fearing what others may think of your speech Layer fear with courage See Figure 4 on the next page The basic pattern goes like this 1 Consider the fear ridden thought that you will block and then stutter 2 Now access a thought of faith or courage What do you have faith in What are you courageous about Access one of those resourceful thoughts 3 Apply the thought of faith courage to the fear of blocking Take the thought of faith courage and bring it to bear apply to on the fear of blocking How do I do that Some people do it visually They will have a picture of fear and then they will take a picture of courage and move courage on top of fear allowing courage to overwhelm fear Others may do it kinesthetically by moving courage from wherever they feel it in their body to the place where they feel fear in their body Experiment and see what works best for you Figure 4 Layering Fear with Courage Faith Think about it If ever time you felt fear of what others may think of you you gave yourself permission to pause and then you access a state of courage or faith and then you applied that state to the state of fearing what others may or may not think of how you talk what would happen The brain learns through repetition So just keep repeating this It takes practice but it has a tendency to work This pattern is the basic meta stating pattern deve
7. ded e Then we associate fear and shame with it The disfluency quickly becomes blocking and stuttering something real because it now has a label and meanings associated with it Plus we can feel it in our bodies and it is really real By doing this an earlier disfluency gets called into an unwanted existence From there we start creating more meanings around this thing called blocking and stuttering Intentions Outcomes What do you want in reference to this thing called blocking and stuttering What are your outcomes desires because you now have this thing called blocking and stuttering I don t want to look like a fool T am going to try to control this T am not going to repeat the past T am not going to let others see my vulnerabilities Self Identity What does blocking and stuttering mean to you as a person e Tam flawed T am broken T am not enough T am worthless T am insecure T can t be enough T am embarrassed Power Resourcefulness What does blocking and stuttering mean about your sense of being Resourceful or Un resourceful Powerful or Powerless T am out of control T don t feel safe and protected T need to change T can t be enough T should be doing better If I hesitate in speaking I will be perceived as weak Time What does blocking and stutter
8. dnesday Sunday 9 AM to 5 PM Daily Our motto If you speak fluently in one context you can learn how to speak fluently in all contexts Let us teach you how What Speech Pathologist Tim Mackesey PC says about this training Do you ever anticipate stuttering have negative feelings about stuttering or even fear stuttering Has this been the obstacle keeping you from complete breakthrough Have thoughts and feelings about stuttering been directly linked to relapses after a therapy program What if you could identify and then eliminate the cognitive and emotional process by which you do this If you have always believed that you needed more than speech production techniques to earn freedom you are right The Mastering Stuttering workshop offers you powerful strategies for solving these problems If you have had previous therapies and doubt your ability to change dramatically there is hope Neuro Semantic strategies offer you that vital piece to your puzzle Tim Mackesey PC fluency bellsouth net www stuttering specialist com For a detailed description of the course content go to http www neurosemantics com Stuttering Mastering_Stuttering htm Investment Training Location Tuition 595 00 Country Inn amp Suites Early Bird Discount 495 00 2541 Little Rock Rd Must be in by September 1 2003 Charlotte North Carolina 1 800 456 4000 For Enrolling Contact Toll Free 704 394 2000 704 394 7467 Fax Bobby G Bod
9. does not want to repeat the past behavior of blocking Intention Matrix due to all the negative meanings the person has associated with blocking and stuttering Meaning Matrix These meanings find expression in the other matrices such as I don t want to appear like I am a weirdo because I block Se f Matrix Or I am powerless to overcome this Power Matrix Etc So in this illustration note how the person s defining of self is mostly determined by the meanings associated with blocking and stuttering And the intent or desire of not repeating past behaviors due to the meanings associated with blocking stuttering drives the meanings given to the other matrices I don t want to appear like I am a weirdo because I block Se f Matrix Or I am powerless to overcome this Power Matrix Etc Below I have listed some examples from my clients I have categorized these in the seven areas of The Matrix Model Turn to Table 1 at the back of this handout for a more thorough listing of meanings that I have discovered from questioning and from studying a good sampling of people who block and stutter How do we create Meanings e We create a meaning first by making a thing out of something In the context of blocking and stuttering we do this by first naming the behavior of disfluency as blocking and stuttering e We evaluate this thing called disfluency as something bad and to be avoi
10. elf in a negative light and with little or no power to navigate your world you will live your life in a totally different way Your Matrix to a large degree determines how you live and experience life We believe that these seven key matrices determine all the other matrices of our mind beliefs values understandings etc i e all of our thinking patterns both conscious and unconscious In Figure 1 previous page I illustrated how meaning as the center of all the other matrices determines all the other matrices In Figure 2 below I utilize a graphic created by Pascal Gambardella Ph D that more accurately illustrates how the model works In this graphic Pascal shows how Meaning does determine all the other matrices But your desires your wants your intentions are involved in creating the other five matrices Thus Intention sends your mind or directionalizes your in creating meanings of your concepts of Self Power Time Others and World Because you don t like blocking and stuttering you will desire to stop it and this not liking it and wanting to stop it will affect how you mentally frame the behavior This is mostly done totally out of conscious awareness Figure 2 The 7 Matrices of Your Neuro Semantics Meaning Intention I shall illustrate When a person who blocks and stutters anticipates an upcoming conversation the person may fear that they will block based on past experiences Time Matrix But the person
11. en teamed up with L Michael Hall Ph D to begin co authoring several books Since that he has turned out many works as he and Michael have applied the NLP and Meta States Models to various facets of human experience In 1996 also Dr Bodenhamer with Michael co founded the Society of Neuro Semantics This has taken his work to a new level taken him into International Trainings and set in motion many Institutes of Neuro Semantics around the world Dr Bodenhamer authored the training manual Mastering Blocking and Stuttering A Handbook for Gaining Fluency He is presently working on this manual for it to be published in book form Books Co Authored by Dr Bodenhamer Patterns For Renewing the Mind w Hall 1997 Time Lining Advance Time Line Processes w Hall 1997 Figuring Out People Design Engineering With Meta Programs w Hall 1997 Mind Lines Lines For Changing Minds w Hall 1997 2000 3 edition The Structure of Excellence Unmasking the Meta Levels of Submodalities w Hall 1999 The User s Manual of the Brain Volume I 1999 w Hall Hypnotic Language 2000 w Burton The Structure of Personality Modeling Personality Using NLP and Neuro Semantics Hall Bodenhamer Bolstad Harmblett 2001 Games for Mastering Fears 2001 with Hall The User s Manual of the Brain Volume IT 2003 w Hall 14 Mastering Blocking amp Stuttering Workshop Charlotte North Carolina October 1 5 2003 We
12. enhamer D Min cicharlo jhmhotels com 1516 Cecelia Dr tonia NC 28054 Eor a Near Charlotte Douglas International Fax 704 8641545 Airport Shuttle Bus Available bob neurosemantics com Restaurants amp a Grocery Store are in Www neurosemantics com walking distance of the hotel Master Card Visa amp Discover Cards Accepted More Information gt 15 Do you sometimes identify yourself with such statements as e Tam flawed e Lam broken e Tam not enough e I can t be enough e Tam timid e Tam shy e Tam shamed e I am possessed Do you at times believe about yourself e Other people validate or determine my worth what they say about me becomes my truth e People judge the content of what I am saying e People in authority are only interested in their own viewpoint therefore what I say will always be wrong to them e I must protect myself from being hurt by others e I must conceal my emotions e Ineed to change e I should be doing better e Ican t be enough e I got to do something e I got to fix this problem e lam worthless as a human being when I do not perform up to others expectations perfectionism e My total value as a person is how I perform and especially how I speak e Ineed to be respected and loved in order to speak fluently e Iam doing something bad to other people when I stutter e It becoming fluent works for everybody but me What wou
13. ing mean to you in your relationship to Time and how do you view blocking and stuttering in reference to Time I am doomed to continue this behavior Tt has always been this way T have always blocked and stuttered and I always will T have to get it done T can t take my time to say what I want to say Others Relationship What does blocking and stuttering mean to you in your relationship with Other people Tt is not OK to stutter T am fearful of being rejected T can t measure up to the expectations of other people T am less than they are T look foolish to them People determine or validate my worth What people say about me becomes truth I must protect myself from being hurt by others World What does blocking and stuttering mean to you in how you view the World you live in e I should be doing better e Ihave to do something e Ihave to get it done Time Matrix also e The whole issue revolves around caring how I talk Self amp Other Matrix also e I won t succeed Creating the Block Such thinking creates a matrix of meanings that locks in the disfluency of childhood The layering of these thoughts on top of one another creates the block The layering multiplies the effect of all the thoughts For instance if you think I have always blocked and I always will And fr
14. is opportunities to speak well I have to try really hard not stuttering so I will weakness I ve got to stop this to block and stutter or I block more I will try to cover the This shows me to be will look foolish stuttering up inadequate and flawed I will block myself from stuttering 2 Self 3 Power 4 Time 5 Others 6 World I am flawed There is Loss of control Permanent It is not OK to stutter I should be doing better something wrong with Frustration Doomed Fear of being rejected I have to do something me Lack of protection It has always been this Expectations from others I have to get it done I am broken Perceived hurt way Inability to measure up to The whole issue revolves Iam not enough I am inadequate I am flawed I am foolish I am worthless I am insecure I am timid Iam shy I am anxious I am tense I am shamed I am possessed I can t be enough Embarrassment I am ashamed I am angry I am abnormal Self pity My value is in performance Unique I stutter I am special my I need to change I can t be enough I am terrified of speaking to I need to be respected and loved in order to speak fluently Other I should be doing better I have to do something I have to get it done Tt becoming fluent works for everybody but me I cannot speak In public On the phone On stage I cannot resta
15. ld changing such beliefs mean to you in gaining fluency If your answer is a great deal then this Mastering Stuttering Workshop has much to offer you in your journey towards fluency Writing an evaluation of this training for the British Stammering Association Magazine Nigel Wilson of the UK says The Neuro Semantics approach has helped improve my fluency and given me hope in the potential for significant change time will tell how effective and permanent this is My stammer has had 30 plus years to embed itself in my mind body belief system it is going to take time and commitment to kick it out What is great is that now on occasions I find myself having come to the end of a conversation and thinking Wow I ve just been talking fluently to this person s and have not had any thoughts fears about stammering either before or during the conversation I was purely thinking about what was been said I assume this is how non stammerers converse it s a new experience for me Nigel Wilson gnw wilson virgin net 16
16. locking stuttering as bad and unacceptable 4 Framing blocking stuttering has the following meanings in the other matrices 7 Intention Self 7 Intention Power 7 Intention Time 7 Intention Others 7 Intention World Attempted solutions that make the problem worse I don t want to look like a fool I will not show my vulnerabilities or weaknesses I will play it safe and create a sense of security because I am not like others I am more sensitive I am going to try to control this I am going to try to control every word that comes out of my mouth I need to change I must not stutter I have to catch this I will do that by becoming very self aware of my I am not going to repeat the past I am not going to make a fool of myself with my speech anymore If I block any emotion in this moment it will give me more control I m afraid this will be permanent so I will try I am not going to attract attention I am not going to let others see my vulnerabilities I will not give others a chance to laugh at me I will not let them see me struggle I will avoid any situations around people or groups I will not do anything that will draw attention to me in my work career etc I will avoid speaking situations that will attract attention to me I will try to be successful by avoiding all I can t handle criticism speech hard to not to continue that will expose th
17. loped by L Michael Hall Ph D The Drop Down Through Pattern At last count we have over 140 Neuro Semantic patterns With that many which is the best That is a difficult question to answer for some work better than others on an individual basis And many are especially designed for specific issues Indeed one of the major benefits of the 7 Matrices Model is that it provides not only a diagnostic tool but it also provides a way for us to know which techniques to use on what problem However if I were to point out one pattern that works the best in most contexts it would be this pattern Indeed I have been using it for eight years and have had more successes 10 with it then any other single pattern About three years ago we advanced the pattern by adding some Meta States distinctions to it which is step 5 The Pattern Go to http www neurosemantics com Stuttering Drop Down _Through htm for a complete article and example for the Drop Down Through Pattern 1 Identify the experience and emotion you want to transform What do you feel just before you block What feelings emotions are behind your blocking stuttering What emotions or experiences are there that undermine your success as a speaker that you would like to eliminate 2 Step into that experience Associate fully into that experience If you are aware of a particular experience that you would like to work on be there present in that memory looking through yo
18. ly and supportive place rather than a place to be feared and to always be on your guard about how would that affect your blocking and stuttering World Matrix The Matrix Model In explaining how we believe that blocking and stuttering are structured in the mind body system I will utilize the model developed by my colleague L Michael Hall Ph D Borrowing from a term of mathematics and the title of the movie by the same name Michael calls the model The Matrix Model The model provides a fantastic tool for organizing all of Neuro Linguistic Programming NLP and Neuro Semantics under seven simple headings I will use it here for a brief and over simplified description of just how we believe blocking and stuttering are created How is blocking and stuttering structured in the mind It is structured like any other thought feeling behavior It all begins with the meanings that we give events The word meaning comes from a German word to hold in mind What meanings do people who block and stutter typically hold in mind We shall be considering those The Matrix Model provides seven areas for us to divide the various meanings given to any behavior The first one listed is the area of meaning which we list first because it is meaning that determines how we describe the other matrices of our experiences In summation the matrices are 1 We begin with Meaning which is the determinant of 2 Your concept of your
19. muscle groups for breathing and speaking that create the blocking and stuttering One gains fluency by removing or changing these meanings to newer and more positive meanings This will result in creating a newer and more powerful matrix to live in and to speak through What meanings have you created in each matrix surrounding your blocking and stuttering What would happen to your speech if all those meanings suddenly disappeared How do I change these meanings Basically one changes the unwanted memories by creating new meanings in exactly the same way one created the negative memories I shall explain The blocking and stuttering became locked in by the child s layering on negative meaning on top of negative meaning about what he or she didn t like about the disfluency As we mentioned earlier this layering meaning on top of meaning acts to hold in the unwanted behavior The layering actually multiplies the effect and creates the blocking from a simple disfluency So in changing those negative thoughts to positive thoughts we want to layer on positive meanings on top of the negative meanings For instance say you experience fear of what others may think should you block and stutter Instead of going the negative route you instead go the positive route You think I am a courageous person I have lived my life blocking and stuttering I have survived That takes courage Now take that thought and state of courage and apply it
20. om there you think I am a hopeless case Indeed I am hopeless I am not normal Etc This layering of negative thoughts upon top of negative thoughts puts you into a total powerless state Figure 3 Layering Meanings for Blocking I wish wouldn t wake up in the morning I wish had never been born I wish I were dead I am not acceptable If had value would be accepted i a I felt totally devalued I would give mother presents and she would ignore them It is the feelings and emotions emanating out of all these thoughts firing at one time which are embodied in the muscles surrounding breathing and speech that produce the blocking As with all panic attacks Blocking functions exactly as a panic attack the emotions expressed in those particular muscles for breathing and speaking result in a physiological response called blocking Stuttering is a result of the person trying to break through the block Figure 3 illustrates the phenomena of layering our minds The mental frames of mind presented here come form one of my recent clients With such meanings embedded in her chest in her chest throat and jaws are you surprised that she blocked And are you surprised that she had problems with depression as well Again it is the layering upon layering of deeply unconscious negative meanings that find expression in those specific
21. othingness They will drop right on down through the negative frames and right into the positive resources At other times they may just pause briefly as they make the switch from the negative frames to the positive frames 5 Meta state each problem state Use each resource state to apply to each problem state And when you feel X about Y how does that transform things And when you even more fully feel X what other transformations occur Validate and solidify just stay right here in this X resource and as you experience it fully what happens to the first problem state 1 6 Test Let s see what now happens when you try and I want you to really try to see if you can get back the problem state that we started with When you try to do that what happens Do you like this Would you like to take this into your future into all of your tomorrows and into all your relationships The Drop Down Through to Rise Up Pattern 1 Identify the experience and emotion you want to transform 2 Step into that experience 3 Drop down through the experience 4 Confirm the emptiness 5 Meta state each problem state 6 Test Use this pattern on any unwanted behavior that has a negative feeling behind it 12 Table 1 1 Meaning Value Meaning Determines the Matrices 1 Classification of non fluent speech as blocking stuttering 2 Associating blocking stuttering with fear and shame 3 Evaluating b
22. ur eyes hearing what you heard and feeling what you felt then now Where do you feel this in your body What does it feel like How intensely are you experiencing this emotion Good just be there with it for a moment noticing just noticing it fully knowing that it is just an emotion and that you are so much more than any emotion 3 Drop down through the experience This may feel strange but you do know what it feels like when you drop so feeling that feeling of dropping just drop down through that experience until you drop down underneath that feeling What thought feeling or emotion lies underneath that emotion And now just imagine dropping down through that feeling Use the language and terms that the person gives you And what thought feeling comes to you as you imagine yourself dropping down through that one Keep repeating this dropping down through process until the person comes to nothing That is to no feelings to a void or emptiness 11 4 Confirm the emptiness Just experience that nothingness or void for a moment Good Now let that nothingness open up and imagine yourself dropping through and out the other side of the nothingness What are you experiencing when you come out the other side of the nothingness What or whom do you see Repeat this several times to a second third or fourth resource state Note Sometimes people will not experience the void the n
23. urant I cannot introduce myself Hesitation is a sign of weakness Hesitation is a sign of fear Hesitation means you are unsure order in a I am not making progress I have to do something I have to get it done I can t take my time to say what I want to say sense of being rushed expectations Hurt not being validated Rejection Isolation Protection From getting involved in a relationship I am less than I look foolish Judged People validate or determine my worth What people say about me becomes the truth People judge the content of what I am saying I must protect myself from being hurt by others I must conceal my emotions I am doing something bad to them if I stutter around talk I won t succeed I am out of control caring how I 13 About the Presenter Bobby G Bodenhamer D Min 1516 Cecelia Dr Gastonia NC 28054 704 864 3585 Fax 704 8641545 bob neurosemantics com www neurosemantics com Dr Bodenhamer first trained for the ministry earned a doctorate in Ministry and served several churches as pastor He began NLP training in 1990 studying with Dr Gene Rooney Dr Tad James and Dr Wyatt Woodsmall and receiving Master Practitioner and Trainer Certifications Since then he has taught and certified NLP trainings at Gaston College in Dallas NC Beginning in 1996 Dr Bodenhamer began studying the Meta States model and th
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